others We live in a world in which basic values such as kindness, humility and compassion are not often given the importance they are due. In the media, selfish and arrogant behavior patterns are often glorified. It is also common for people to get so caught up in day-to-day responsibilities and personal insecurities, that they lose sight of their goals for personal development. Recovering your sense of integrity, or goodness, begins with identifying your personal values. Goodness is the first step to success and happiness. We can often turn to religion for guidance, but ultimately we should learn to define our own morals ourselves. One of the simplest ways to do so is to love others, and treat them as you would like to be treated. Try to think of others before yourself. Even doing small things daily will greatly enrich and improve your life, and the lives of others around you. To be a good person is not easy because you have to believe in people and people you cannot see. Steps Be a Good Person Step 1.jpg 1Identify what it is that being a good person means to you personally. Some people think that being a good person is as simple as not doing harm to another, but it is not always about what you don't do, but what you do for others. You might not be a bad person, but are you a good person? Who do you look up to and why? How are they making the world a better place to live in, and how can you do the same? What qualities do you admire in them, and how can you develop the same ones? Keep your role model close to you, like a friendly spirit that is always at your side. Think how they would respond to a question or circumstance, and how they would respond in the same manner. Think of ways that you can better embody these qualities you admire. Think of how to apply those qualities in your work, creative pursuits, personal relationships, diet and lifestyle. Ad Be a Good Person Step 2.jpg 2Try to look at the bright side of things. The Motto of the Christophers says: "It is better to light a single candle than it is to curse the darkness." Be that light. When you see controversy, try to be the one who changes the subject by suggesting a solution. Don't state what you would do, but ask everyone to get involved. Be a Good Person Step 3.jpg 3Accept everyone around you as your brothers and sisters no matter what race, age, sexual orientation, gender identity or culture. Realize that we have feelings, and should be treated with respect. Be a Good Person Step 4.jpg 4Don't try to correct people when they're angry by saying something irrational, just look with compassion and remain quiet. Saying 'I understand' is usually the wrong answer. If you say anything at all, just say, "I'm sorry you feel this way, is there anything I can do to help?" Be a Good Person Step 5.jpg 5Stop comparing others with yourself. Try to understand that some have it better than you in life, but at the same time, many have it much worse. When we make ourselves miserable by comparing ourselves with others, we are wasting time and energy that we could use in building our own inner resources. Real life is found in using our own gifts and talents rather than over focusing on the gifts of another. Be a Good Person Step 6.jpg 6Every day, try to do an act of charity for some one else, even if it's something small. Even reach out to people who have been cold or indifferent to you. An act of kindness and generosity can go a long way. Be a Good Person Step 7.jpg 7Be respectful of elderly people. Realize that you will be old some day and may need a helping hand. Next time you go to a mall, parking lot, or anywhere, focus your vision all around, look for an old person struggling with something, like carrying bags or loading groceries into their car. Say, "May I help you with that?" You will be doing a great service for seniors. Sometimes you may get one who is crabby or distrustful, and will refuse your offer, then simply say, "I understand, and I wish you a good day." Don't give up at this point, and keep up looking for a person that will accept your offer. Realize the elderly can have vision, hearing, or even dementia problems, so you may need to gesture with your hands as if carrying or loading. Go to a park and take a brisk walk, and if you see an old person alone, say hello with a gentle smile, and ask how they are doing, just acknowledging someone is only proper, and can make their day. Try to imagine losing your spouse whom you enjoyed and loved for many years, only to be left alone in the big world all by yourself. By developing this attitude of love and understanding for the gentle things of life, like the elderly, you be on your way to the true meaning of life and sharing, and you will become a better person. Be a Good Person Step 8.jpg 8Be compassionate towards mentally challenged people for they are people with feelings too, and they are brothers and sisters as well. Act as if life is just a chance, and you could have been born the same way, and if you were, how you would want to be treated. They too have a sense of feeling, so give them a big smile, and show loving compassion with your eyes. Be careful not to touch them though, because this can scare them. If other people are around that are smiling or laughing with your interaction with them, ignore them and keep your attention on your brother or sister that is your true friend. Be a Good Person Step 9.jpg 9Compliment friends whom you might be jealous of, and people you don't know as well as you would like to. Giving credit where due is only respectful, and you would want the same respect for an achievement you've accomplished. Be a Good Person Step 10.jpg 10Be a better listener than talker. Follow what the person is saying, and confirm this with a follow up question on the topic, then they will know that you're paying attention to them. Be a Good Person Step 11.jpg 11Don't try to get attention by hiding or being rude when you are in an argument with a friend, talk to them and work it out. It is best not to fight fire with fire, perhaps suggesting that for the both of you to take some time to think it over would be best. Be the one to succeed first. Say, "I want to resolve this with you, because you are such a good friend. Let's take time and think this out." Be a Good Person Step 12.jpg 12Celebrate others' victories and good qualities, even when you do not feel as blessed as they do. Many cultures and religions have heroes, martyrs, and fables that may help individuals to find meaning and cultivate good character. Be a Good Person Step 13.jpg 13Love yourself. Practice unconditional self-acceptance. It is a lot easier to love others, but first you have to have confidence and love yourself. You can do this by going out in the community and offering small acts of charity, then gradually increasing them a little at a time. Do not try to do too much at once, but take it in baby steps. You will start to be a better person when you can put a smile on someone's face and make his or her day, and it will make yours as well. It has been said that it's in giving that we receive. Be a Good Person Step 14.jpg 14Make it a point before you leave your house that, when you return, the world will be a much better place to live in. It does not have to be something big, but can be something like picking up some trash that someone threw down in a local park, or in front of your neighbor's home. Be a Good Person Step 15.jpg 15Pray and meditate to help cultivate the qualities you seek to embody. Be a Good Person Step 16.jpg 16Cultivate both compassion and good karma through volunteer service. See How to Volunteer. Be a Good Person Step 17.jpg 17Share your life and good philosophies with others. Give the young good moral values to live by, and the importance of them. Give examples of them by other peoples charities and yours as well. Sometimes you will feel as if your effort was in vain, but realize that you have planted the good seed in their minds, and it may take some time to respond to it. Be a Good Person Step 18.jpg 18Don't be in a hurry in life, slow down and enjoy the fine and simple things of life. Don't be in a hurry to get to the store and get back. Sit back at the steering wheel and enjoy the scenery as you go. While in the store, notice all the fine and colorful fruits and vegetables that are there for your nourishment, and realize that others are not as fortunate to reap the same benefits. Buy some extra nourishing food to give to the food bank to help feed others. Suggest to the manager there should be a food drop off somewhere in the store for the poor. Be a Good Person Step 19.jpg 19Only use the horn in your car in an emergency, not to blow at a little old lady or man that can barely see over the wheel. Realize that they are old and have to take their time so they don't injure themselves or someone else. They are taking their time and being kind, and so should you. Anger only begets anger, understand that they may be in a hurry for something important, or they may be having car or other troubles. Even if they are not, why add to already negative feelings? Be a Good Person Step 20.jpg 20Don't take the closest parking space at the store. Choose one further away and figure it to be the exercise that you may need. Leave the ones close for those that need them. Be a Good Person Step 21.jpg 21Always insist on serving yourself the smaller portion of the food when dining with others. Never take the biggest piece of pizza or slice of meat, for you will appear greedy to those you are dining with. Be a Good Person Step 22.jpg 22Even doing simple things, such as smiling at someone who seems unhappy or holding the door open for a stranger, will help you become a better person. Soon enough, these small acts of kindness will become a habit that you don't even have to think about. Be a Good Person Step 23.jpg 23To start your mission to become a good person, please read this list every day and make it a part of you. Follow its guidelines and add some of yours as well, and join in the discussion page. Be a Good Person Step 24.jpg 24Don't try to be like somebody else; just be yourself and do good things as simply as you can show and manage to do. Be a Good Person Step 25.jpg 25Remember to always be yourself and never who you're not. It's always good to be a good person. But yourself is a part of you,and you must respect that. Be a Good Person Step 26.jpg 26Lose yourself in the service of other people; This is one of the keys of happiness.will be nice to them Be a Good Person Step 27.jpg 27Do not bully. Instead, stick up for the bullied. Be a Good Person Step 28.jpg 28Remember that people will be nice to you if you are nice to them. (treat others the way you would like to be treated) Ad Add your own method Save Tips Don't be racist. Remember, everybody is equal and everybody deserves respect and compassion- regardless of skin, gender, physical/mental condition, or religion. Don't be judgmental. Show people that you respect them. People tend to mirror others' actions; if they see you respect them, they will respect you in return. Listen to your parents, and older people, when they give you positive advice. They have considerably more life experience, and the likelihood is they are giving you such advice to avoid a negative experience they have had in the past. They normally have nothing but your well-being in mind when giving this advice. Understand that you can be looked down on by a more popular belief. Unfortunately, that is just human nature. However, remember that being a good person is harder than being a bad person, so never take the easy way out. Remember to always stand for what is right, even if it means you stand alone. When people attempt to put you down, don't talk back or take it to heart. Instead, laugh/shrug it off, or simply say you're sorry they feel this way. This will show you are too smart to sink down to their level and will prevent you from being harsh, aggressive, and a bad person. Not to mention, when they see how well you handle the situation, even your aggressors may back off or lose their interest in insulting you. Do not lie to others, as this is lying to yourself. Remember, happiness is a state of mind. The only thing in the world that we can control is ourselves, so choose to be happy, and control yourself by purposely maintaining a positive mental attitude. Be nice and respectful to others. most of all be happy Show 10 more tips Ad Warnings Remember that you are still human - for as long as you live, you will have a tendency to sometimes make mistakes; that's okay. Do the best you can, and if you occasionally make mistakes or are not as nice as you'd like to be, just bring yourself back to focusing on thinking of others as much as yourself As much as possible, seek to have a sense of humour about these things - both with regards to the mistakes you've made and the sacrifices you anticipate you will need to make to be nice. Even small changes can make an enormous and positive difference - give yourself small goals to aim for every month or two months and focus on one or two key habits which you want to change. For example, Goal 1: I will listen to others, without interrupting at all either verbally OR non verbally. (Think of how frustrating it can be for you when the other person begins to move their mouth as if they are about to interject!) Goal 2: I will do my best to think of what would make another person happy (e.g. sharing your food/drink with others when they are hungry/thirsty, letting someone else sit where you want to sit) Recognize that you may find it more difficult to be kind and understanding in practice than in theory - think of the old saying "Easier said than done." The areas of relating to others which you could most likely improve in are quite possibly the ones which you are least willing to admit that you are wrong in; and that's exactly why you can benefit so much from facing that you may be wrong or out of line in how you relate to or treat others Learning any new skill or practice can be challenging, especially something as central as incorporating kindness and compassion into your overall manner with others. To make the transition easier, be aware of the following: Jealousy is hard to overcome, try to realize that you don't have to have fun toys or cute clothes to have popularity. If someone asks you for help and it involves doing what they should do alone - never do it! Because that is wrong, it's cheating and it simply teaches the person you 'help' cheating is fine. Realise that being kind, understanding and compassionate in how you treat others is largely the result of having a loving and caring attitude towards others - it doesn't work very well if you are merely trying to be diplomatic. Don't adopt a policy like, "Anything for a quiet life". Instead, learn how to empathize. "How would I feel if I were the other person?" That way, you will be likely to act with their feelings in mind and this will show in your words and actions. Be kind not so you look good to others, but more so others may benefit from your selfless acts. 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